Today I have a guest writer for precocious lotus – Mama R. Mama R has written a piece below about the time you see yourself as a mother.
I know personally for my first pregnancy it was difficult to identify with the “typical role” of mother. I had trouble enough looking after myself let alone thinking about how I was going to care for a little person. Three little people later and yes I identify with being a mum =) (It didnt take that long thankfully).
So Mama R writes:
As I progress through my second pregnancy, I am struck by the question “When did I know I was a Mum?” Was it the positive pregnancy test, the first ultra sound or hearing the baby’s heart beat? Was it the first time I felt the baby kick or when I first held her? Was it when she first really seemed to see me or when she said Mum? Was it the first time she ran to the door to give me a hug after I’d been at work? These are all times that I have felt an overwhelming sensation of being a mother. But through this pregnancy, I have also been struck by the small things that make me a Mum.
I know I’m a Mum when I walk out of the house with a food print on my pants/shirt. I know I’m a Mum when buying a massive tub of Nappy San doesn’t seem extreme. I know I’m a Mum when sharing sucked soggy food is no longer gross. I know I’m a Mum when I can’t see my lounge room floor because of all the toys. I know I’m a Mum when I’m interested in wees and poos. I know I’m a Mum when I commentate on everything I do. I know I’m a Mum when going to work sometimes feels like an easier day. I know I’m a Mum when jumping on the bed and playing in the sheets seems more important than making the bed. I know I’m a Mum when at the end of the day, it’s quiet and I feel exhausted but totally fulfilled. I know I’m a Mum when I have had a flat out day but can’t actually pinpoint where all the time went. I know I’m a Mum when I look into my little girl’s eyes and can’t imagine life without her. I know I’m a Mum when I take her to see an ultra sound and tell her she’s going to be a big sister.
So I ask you to have a think about finishing the sentence
“I know I’m a Mum (or Dad) when…”