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Reality Check

Isn't this exercise?

Over recent weeks I’ve had the unfortunate experience of engaging the services of a personal trainer. Yes I hear you. You feel my pain.Torture isn’t it?

Just joking. Yes I am grateful I am able to get the help from such an experienced and motivated person.

I do need it though. Three little people and over 12 months of significant stress, eating as problem solving has not been my best choice, who’d have thought? What’s the problem with having some chocolate to numb the worry; or eat some chips when I have a little person who should be in bed already…

It reminds me of that advertisement I love “can I choose where the calories go?”

I’m sure those calories I was acquiring whilst not concentrating on the food I was eating didn’t count? Right? WRONG! A big fat WRONG.

So instead of losing my “baby weight” it just stayed put and then some. But anyway I’m not here to specifically talk about that.

Meeting up with this amazing trainer has given me a big old reality check! How do we seem to forget what natural and healthy foods are? How do we forget the amount of exercise that is truly required to lose the weight and get it back down to the level it should be? Its like the information gets sucked into a black hole, never to return or at best case scenario it’s sitting tucked away at the back of our brain with cobwebs and dust.

It has been amusing (if I don’t laugh about this situation I may just cry) to look at Mr. PT’s face when I list what I have been eating and thinking that it is healthy. I’m not stuffing my face with fast food everyday but pasta, rice, cheese, milk and butter all got the ‘oh please’ eye roll. Or mentioning the Pilates class or yoga dvd I was using to attempt to burn calories, he just about laughed in my face. There have been some seriously jaw dropping and “What the …!!!” moments.

So I have had a massive reality check realising the amount of calories I was consuming and amount of calories I was NOT burning were not matching up, to say the least. Unfortunately, though I was delusional, thinking I am choosing where those calories settle.

Now I don’t think I’m not intelligent enough to realise this, but it is interesting how our perception can be so skewed. I am seriously amazed at how my brain has operated in respect to this and how tuned out I’ve been.

So I’ve had the stern talking to, I accepted it as I know I needed it. I’m now taking accountability for what I’m consuming and if he’s not whipping my butt into shape then I’m doing it myself. You do really have to move to lose weight and a walk is just not going to produce my results. Really? So the treadmill isn’t a lounge room decoration?

Anyone else had a reality check lately?

If you are looking for inspiration I have found a beautiful soul motivating herself and others through her blog ~ Diminishing Lucy


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17 thoughts on “Reality Check

  1. Isn’t it so scary when all the maths is presented to us. I remember when I realised that to burn one singular Tim Tam that I would have to run for ten minutes. Or to eat a handful of chippies, that I would have to run another ten minutes. I mean, I knew that, but chose to ignore the reality for so long…

    I think that a PT is THE best way to go. They are a constant reality check!

    Thank you so much for linking to me.

    Posted by Lucy Mulvany | July 17, 2011, 10:04 pm
    • I hear you Lucy. I hate having to be obsessive about what goes into my mouth, but I think I went too far the other way, and totally blocked out all consequences!
      Back to Sparkpeople for me.

      Posted by jenny | July 18, 2011, 10:57 pm
    • I know exactly what youre talking about now. weighing up food and how much exercise was needed to expend that intake. sheesh I dont know how youve done it for so long. I definietely need the PT I am a very lazy exerciser if not pushed! Thanks for stopping by -xxx-

      Posted by Author | August 3, 2011, 1:39 am
  2. I admire a person who doesn’t shirk her personal responsibilities/shoot the messenger in the face of not-so-good news. I’m sorry but I probably woudn’t be as good as you were on the receiving end of a good telling off. Well done for everything, after all it’s your gift to yourself.

    I’m in denial of anything such related. Proof: My brother is a PT. He’s started a blog. I haven’t read it. :O (shhhhhh!)

    Posted by Twitchy | July 17, 2011, 10:59 pm
  3. My reality check came last week when I went to a fabulous Brisbane doctor who specialises in Nutritional, Environmental medicine – because I was lacking energy………. only to find out after food sensitivity testing and blood tests that I’m insulin resistant. This only happened Wednesday and I’m trying to learn fast but it means no more carbs – potatoes, rice, sugar, wine. Basically veges, lean protein, avocado’s I need for natural fats (not sure why yet) and 2 grains which I can start on in *maybe* 90 days.


    Cath do you have increased energy levels yet? is the PT permanent or a kick-start do you think?


    Posted by Yoga Julia (@YogaJG) | July 18, 2011, 9:39 am
    • Wow thats a big reality check! How is it going? good I hope as its such a significant life change. Yes definitely feeling increased energy levels. PT is a kick start to begin with and we’ll see how we go. A few months of kick start at least. Thank you for sharing -xx-

      Posted by Author | August 3, 2011, 1:37 am
  4. LOL, yes, I did, but my reality check had exactly the opposite effect. I realised my obsessions with food and exercise were not leading to a healthier me, instead they were leading to a sadder, more self-loathing kind of me who couldn’t find the beauty in every day moments for fear of losing control. My fear of losing control had me completely out of control. Now, I simply listen to my body and mind without judgement and focus on loving my body as it is and letting it all flow from there. I’m fairly fit, so I let that be my guide to my health levels. I can stand to work on holding stress thought. I am much happier these days at a size 20 than I was four years ago at a size 12.

    Posted by Sif | July 18, 2011, 3:53 pm
  5. Good post, Cath. I usually shy away from calorie counting. The obsessive sort, anyway. But last Saturday, on a whim, I totalled my calories for HALF A DAY. And I hadn’t eaten as much nor as bad as I regularly do, so thought I’d be seeing okay figures. But WOW – I had nearly used up my suggested calorie range and completely blown my fat allowance. No wonder my body has been quite ill for most of this year (not to mention the obesity factor) and mentally I had been fighting sluggishness, and the old black dog was never far from the door. And physical movement, let’s not even go there – yes let’s do – I was convincing myself that the walk from the bustop to school and home everyday was a good amount of exercise. Sheesh, talk about Da Nile. Reality check – hell yes. I need one daily. So I’m going to start journalling my food again – and work towards mindful eating.

    Posted by jenny | July 18, 2011, 10:55 pm
    • Thanks Jenny. Its so weird isnt it how we think we are doing certain activities and eating certain foods that are healthy but when written in clear black and white its startling. Hope the food journal is going well. Thanks for stopping by xx

      Posted by Author | August 3, 2011, 1:34 am
  6. Well done Cath. It is so empowering to put yourself back in control of the cycle. I’ve spent the best part of a year getting myself mentally and physically fit, and I dread to think where I would be if I hadn’t. Having a blog to write it all down (like my Couch to 5k journey), and taking control of the calories in and out was my starting point. Quitting chocolate for a year has also stopped my emotional eating habits. It’s not easy, but the rewards, both mentally and physically, are fantastic. xx

    Posted by Shelley | July 19, 2011, 10:01 am
  7. I contacted my good friend who is a dietician recently to get some advice regarding my eating. I am breast feeding and so know that it’s not healthy to diet but at the same time I felt hungry all the time and therefore felt I was eating too much. Baby #2 is smaller than #1, what if I can’t lose the weight as easy this second time around? So I thought I’d ask for help. I was surprised by the initial information I was given; surprised in that the suggested dietary intake for a breast feeding mum seems heaps! But it’s heaps of healthy food….ahhh.. that’s where I was going wrong! I logged my intake for a week to send to her and am awaiting a personalised eating plan. In the meantime I jumped on myfitness.com to log my food intake and calorie intake. Just the diary of it all makes me eat better I think. More conscious of what I put in my mouth and more motivated to exercise too. Looking forward to my personalised eating plan though and even more looking forward to having more energy!

    Posted by Mama R | July 26, 2011, 8:52 pm
    • Sounds great and yes have heard of that website and app. I know what you mean though re: eating alot and not always choosing the right foods either. What makes it hard I think is that we crave foods quick fix foods to give us a perk and they are not necessarily the best option. Let me know how the personalised eating plan goes xx

      Posted by Author | August 3, 2011, 1:25 am


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