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I love you enough to say no


I have just had a massive shift in my ideology.

It’s so true. You cant actually make shifts or changes until you actually have the realisation and revelation yourself. You can read thousands of opinions or pieces on a certain topic but until that switch flicks or that penny drops as they say the shift won’t happen.

I was speaking to a friend about body image, more specifically about self perception and being conscientious about your body.

I know I have hang ups and I’m sure I’m not in the minority. In the past I used to think “if I just do this or if I just do that then I’ll be happy” as they say though you never reach your destiny as there is always something more that you aim for. There is no end point. It is never “enough”

I had my revelation tonight. As I’ve said before, a lot of my insights aren’t new. People have said them but I have my spin or take on them.

Tonight my consciousness shifted. My new belief appeared before my eyes. I was doing some yoga to wind down and it popped, as those thoughts normally do into my brain.

A bit of self disclosure here which isn’t usual for me but it gives you the basis and understanding.

I’ve always had in my mind in relation to food, could be other areas but hey I’m not staying on the chaise for you guys to analyse me! I digress. Food feels good for a lot of people. I had the sub conscious thought that if I loved myself I gave and fed myself what I wanted. I deserved it, earned it, it’s a luxury and pleasure so enjoy.

Stopped in my tracks. Bended and twisted in the yoga pose the conversation with the friend ran through my mind. I only have one body I reflected. I’m going to enjoy this body. I’m going to stop putting it down and stop treating it poorly.

Man, I thought I had good body image! It appears not with these little nasties coming out from the darkness.
My reflection continued to the point that I realised this life changing thought:

“I love you (my body) enough to say no to the food and beverages I put into my body that aren’t helpful and that don’t help it work optimally. That don’t make me feel ill or out of sorts”
“I love you (my body) enough that I want to strengthen, condition and energise it with weights, core postures, yoga moves, running and aerobic activity.”
“I love you (my body) enough that I sleep more”
“I love you (my body) enough to speak well of it and praise it for the tremendous job it does for me every single day.”

Wow. I nearly fell out of the pose. That first one was a major one, the game changer. The others are affirmations of a journey I have already started with.

I’d had it all wrong!

I thought it was
“I love you (my body) and show you this when I reward you and give you life’s luxuries and treats; when I relax and don’t exert myself and basically just do whatever I wish”

That’s not love! How am I loving my body by fueling it with unhealthy substances and not doing anything beneficial for it? My love and reasons for giving love were misguided.

This is profound for me. As I said. I don’t normally share my personal reflections on here but it’s life changing. I can honestly feel a shift in my attitude and essence.

I hope it triggers something for you. That’s why I’m sharing. It doesn’t have to be food, it could be another way you are treating your body and believing you are “loving it” through reward. Do you love yourself enough to say no?

And so it continues. The love journey has many forms and lessons to learn.

Always evolving. Forever learning.


About Bringing Spirit Into The Everyday

Modern Suburban Hippie (minus hallucinogens :) ) Vegetarian. Passionate. Love Laughs. Yoga. Chai Lattes. Crystals. Oracle cards. Goddesses. Angels. Spiritual. Perfume Loving. Intuitive Parenting. Breastfeeding Mama. Sport Loving. Opinionated. Scorpio. Psychologist. I have 3 little people who rock my world.


6 thoughts on “I love you enough to say no

  1. Wow! That is a profound realisation. I had a moment very similar about 3 days ago. Same realisation – just not regarding food.

    The last few days alone, the shift I’ve felt is A shift in everything – attitude, action and essence.

    Thanks for sharing!! xxx

    Posted by Nat | April 29, 2012, 9:27 am
  2. I really enjoyed this post – in the past 12 months I’ve been learning about saying “no” to others in order to set and preserve healthy boundaries for myself; as opposed to feeling guilty about not saying “yes” all the time. What you write about here runs parallel to that, I think. Odd how we can be slow to say “no” in favour of ourselves isn’t it..?


    Posted by Coffee Baroness (@Schnicka) | April 29, 2012, 9:32 am
  3. I also LOVE this post and it resonates with me very well. Although I have been on a roller coaster with this exact realisation for years I still at times fall off the wagon so to speak and fall back into old habits regarding what I eat and do to my body. I often feel like I have to justify myself why I want to work out so much or eat so well and over the years I am slowly learning that it isn’t just about body image, it is purely more to respect this body I have been given, what other explanation is needed after all.
    You have inspired and highlighted to me why it is important to eat right and be careful of what I put in my mouth and how i treat my body all over again. For this I thank you. xx

    Posted by Belinda | April 29, 2012, 9:41 am
  4. Yay Cath!! This is awesome, do you know how much this stuff has been occupying my thoughts lately? The will to change yet the stuckness keeping me in that false ‘love’ of you can have it all, I do not wish to deny you. Is it when we are able to not deny ourselves in other areas of life we open up the space to let go of fear of self denial…and can let it go. Maybe, but anyway, inspired I am!

    Posted by innerbeam | April 29, 2012, 9:43 am


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