If you do what you’ve always done, you’re going to get what you’ve always gotten. Have a problem or difficulty? Go deeper, understand how you have responded in the past and why. The outcome will have a high probability of having the same result if factors are similar. Want change? Change your ways. If you find it difficult to understand the root of your behaviour or another way of being send love to the person or situation until you figure it out. At the very least it takes the negative emotional reaction you are having out of the equation. Check out this post for more on that.
Om Mani Padme Hum