It sounds obvious but some people don’t: Ask them about what they are feeling. See if they can tell what is wrong and if they can connect with the feeling and their mood. For children who can’t or younger ones? Use various faces or emoticon pictures to provide space for identification or further discussion. Identifying feelings is the first part of being able to work with them. Don’t ever assume. Just because children and teens are younger or little doesn’t mean they won’t experience the spectrum of feelings. Providing the opportunity to allow them this will give you their trust and openness more willingly.